MEN WITH DEPRESSION

MEN WITH DEPRESSION

MEN WITH DEPRESSION

Posted By: Adam Rubin

 

WHAT IS DEPRESSION

Depression: de·pres·sion /dəˈpreSH(ə)n/ Noun
Feelings of severe despondency and dejection.
“self-doubt creeps in and that swiftly turns to depression”
 

MEN VS WOMEN : DEPRESSION

Men and women suffer depression almost equally. Men, however, believe that asking for help is a sign of weakness. This increases risk for a depression-related illness or suicide because they bottle up all their emotions inside. Most men hide their depression by trying to cover their feelings. Majority of cases will avoid feeling anything with drugs, alcohol, sex, or work.

Depression shows in men not as helpless or hopeless, but as angry, frustrated, and other aggressive feelings. Men are less likely to seek treatment than women and they are less likely to admit that they have a problem.

 

DEPRESSION IN MEN

Depression and man are at war and you wouldn’t even know it until there is a victor. Drugs may be a bandaid for a deep wound, which makes it difficult to pick up on some of the signs of depression, even if it is a loved one. When one is actively trying to cover up their feelings, it makes it even more difficult. They may seem full of smiles and carrying on with daily routines, but deep down inside there is a beast stirring up, just waiting to come out. Now, not only do we have to bring the depression to the front lines, we also may have to deal with an addiction or dual-diagnosis which complicates the diagnosis. Which came first “the chicken or the egg”.

 

TYPICAL DEPRESSION SIGNS : SELF-HELP

Some of the typical depression signs, which can vary from person to person, like sleeping more than usual, not sleeping at all, tension, or uncontrollable anger. Although I am not a medical professional, my personal experience has shown me that having a support team in your corner, unconditionally, doesn’t hurt. Well it hurts if you are trying to hide these things, but addressing the topic and letting that special someone now you are there when your ready to talk.

It’s important not to push the issue and just let things run their course with men. This could risk pushing them further away.

If you are a man who is depressed, there are a few things you can do to help yourself:

  • TALK: Talk to anyone about how you are feeling. Just getting it off your chest even in a confessional, is a weight lifted off your shoulder.
  • ACTIVE: Find something active you enjoy, go for a walk, put some music on or maybe play music. (Music/Art is great, for it uses the right side of your brain, the creative side)
  • BREAKS: Take breaks to do these activities and refresh your mind for the rest of the day.
  • RELAX: Remember to relax. Especially after a long day, putting aside some alone time to relax ( Not on social media)
  • NUTRITION: Healthy Eating & Exercise will keep your body and immune system strong. Be ready mentally & physically.

 

HOW CAN A LIFE COACH HELP WITH MY DEPRESSION?

A Life Coach is not a Therapist, nor counselor. Coaches focus more on results, while other professionals focus on the trauma. Although, both have their place. Head over to check out our Life Coach Vs. Therapist Page for an in depth analysis.

The job of the coach is to see the greatness inside of you that you are yet to see. Staying focused on the results and reaching them efficiently. Each party has their place. For me personally, I spent close to a decade with various specialists. Most of the time I would end up remembering other reasons to be depressed and was hopeless. Even on medications, I will admit there were some nights, in the back of my mind I was hoping to go to sleep and stay asleep.

There is nothing wrong with being on medications. That is a private matter between you and your healthcare professional. However, how many people do you know on an antidepressant who are still depressed? Eventhough

Resilient Life Coaching uses “Human Needs Psychology” to identify an individuals belief system, for everyone has a different set of rules they live by. Finding out what they hold close to their heart, could be the leverage you need to breakthrough to a happier, wealthier, more fulfilled life.

 

ADAM RUBIN

ADAM RUBIN

Owner/Lead Strategist

Founder & Lead Strategist at Resilient Life Management L.L.C. He is also a proud father of three boys, Cole, Caden & Chase. Adam has dedicated his life to helping others attain a life well beyond their wildest dreams. Both in Business & Personal Lifestyle.

Guaranteed To Increase Sales!

Guaranteed To Increase Sales!

THE LAST SALES TRAINING YOU'LL EVER NEED

Master The Art Of Sales & Influence. Learn "Why We Buy, Or Not Buy."

 

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5 Tips To Increase Sales & Revenue

Posted By: Adam Rubin

INTRODUCTION:

My name is Adam Rubin for those of you who do not know. I hope all is well, and everyone is staying safe. However, the show must go on for those of us able to work. This is the first article of many more to come. Today’s topic is more geared for professional growth, sharing 5 tips to increase sales. So whether you are usually a face to face based sales technique, for the time being you may have to change your strategy a little, if you really want to boost sales and increase revenue.

HOW I INCREASED SALES OVER 300% IN 1 QUARTER

 My first real “Sales” job was at a high-end retail store. Within 6 months I had won “Top 10” in sales and revenue in the nation. They promoted me to General Manager, where our store flourished until the day I left. The sales training was on the job itself. Every day, people walking in are they going to buy, and how can I get them to buy more. It was all about understanding the customers wants, because people buy more of what they want than what they actually need. The second part was building rapport, while qualifying myself as an expert and them having money.

RESULT: The fact is I have had success increasing sales, especially in person. Growing two well known, High-end retail stores, different industries. in just one quarter. I led my team to grow over 300% in multiple areas, at that time and I didn’t even have the same wisdom I have today. I’ve spent years as an Insurance Broker, which first helped me gain confidence on the phone, knocking on door, handling rejection where I was able to develop strong Leadership skills.

I knew tricks & strategies, but what I didn’t know why they worked, I never really thought about it until my last mentor who has shaped Resilient Life till this day. Human Needs Psychology. Increasing sales by understanding 6 basic human needs, which people tend to drift towards two of them more so than the others. That is where you find the leverage you need. Finally answers to the big question, “why people do the things they do, buy or not buy?”  I’ve spent years studying this Art Of Sales & Influence h it’s an art form because humans are complex. Different cultures & different beliefs, means different communication and buying patterns.

Your most important skill as a business owner is your “Influential Power”. Having the best product or service means nothing if you can’t get anyone to buy it, so to ensure the success of your business you must develop the ability to generate revenue.

 

Here Are 5 Tips Developed For Increasing Sales:

 

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1. BUILD RAPPORT :

If there is one thing you must do authentically and first, is building rapport. There are many ways of building rapport and we will go into some of those ways in another article. However, “NLP” aka “Nero-Linguistic Programming,” use multiple physiological techniques to put your prospects/clients at ease, a familiarity. Make them your best friend by asking questions to find commonalities. This done proper, could have the prospect closing the deal for you!

2. INCREASE CLIENTELE :

There are many ways to find more clients. Look at the number of clients you had last month and stretch for 10% more this month. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there. Give webinars, Guest Speak, Volunteer, be more active on social media, or write an article for your trades magazine or business journal which will establish you as an “expert” in your field. People like to buy from experts because it reduces their fear of making a bad decision. Everyone can overcome their fear of public speaking, so find the method that works best for you and do it.

3. INCREASE PRICE BY ADDING VALUE :

Add value to existing & new products/services. This will allow you to increase the cost and increase repeat sales.  Anything of value that could be added to either update a Service/Product will allow you to increase the cost by at least 10%. Small changes often lead to bigger results. Only focusing on 10% increase, makes it seem less overwhelming and more attainable.

4. TAKE THE COTTON OUT OF YOUR EARS AND PUT THEM IN YOUR MOUTH:

95% of people in sales make the mistake of pitching their products/services before getting to know what your future client really wants & needs. Be broad, use questions to find out what they truly want and need before offering them a service that does not provide the right solutions. Qualify your prospect, add value that is useful, for that could turn them into raving fans and even opens the doors for referrals. Which I would rather take 10 referrals than 1 sale. Remember – nothing adds more to your credibility than a referral from a satisfied prospect.

5. MEASURE EVERYTHING :

If you don’t measure, you will not know where you need to grow. How many leads did you get last month? How many of those leads were you able to schedule an appointment with? How many were closed? Those alone can provide you with enough information to be able to predict how many you will need to get each month to continuously grow. This allows you to manage your cash flow by forecasting your sales. It also tells you how many calls are needed to increase your sales revenue. Optimize & Maximize for continuous growth.

 

ADAM RUBIN

ADAM RUBIN

Owner/Lead Strategist

Founder & Lead Strategist at Resilient Life Management L.L.C. He is also a proud father of three boys, Cole, Caden & Chase. Adam has dedicated his life to helping others attain a life well beyond their wildest dreams. Both in Business & Personal Lifestyle.

10 MUST HAVE LEADERSHIP QUALITIES

10 MUST HAVE LEADERSHIP QUALITIES

10 BASIC LEADERSHIP QUALITIES

DEVELOP WELL-ROUNDED LEADERSHIP QUALITIES THAT EMPOWER YOUR TEAM

All leaders are different, and finding out what kind of leader you are can help you take your skills to the next level. Whether you’re responsible for leading a Fortune 500 company or striving to view yourself as a leader as you work to attain your personal goals, developing effective leadership qualities is absolutely essential to your success. Honing excellent leadership traits helps you surmount obstacles, take risks and find ways to live joyfully and thrive even during the most challenging times.

Many people believe that if they aren’t displaying the stereotypical leadership traits like being outspoken, they’ll never possess excellent leadership qualities. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Don’t hold yourself back thinking that the potential for leadership is something you have or don’t. Limiting beliefs of this nature keep you from your full potential and exist only in your head. When you focus on and visualize what you want to be rather than what holds you back, you harness the power of acquiring and utilizing excellent leadership attributes.

 

WHAT ARE LEADERSHIP QUALITIES?

There are different types of leaders. Accepting that your leadership style is unique to your set of skills, and then working to cultivate your leadership qualities, is the best way to become the leader you need to be to reach geometric success. But what are the qualities of a good leader? To answer this question, first consider what defines leadership. A dictionary definition of leadership includes being in a position of governance or control over people or an organization. A real-life leadership definition digs deeper into the nuances of what it means to be in charge. When you’re running a business, you’re leading people, and that means you must develop people skills in addition to business know-how. To be an effective leader, you must be able to consistently interact with your staff, colleagues and clients to believe in them and help achieve goals. Great leaders don’t force collaboration – they invite it. As Apple’s Steve Jobs famously said, leadership is about inspiring people to accomplish what they thought they couldn’t do, whereas management is about persuading people to do what they never wanted to do.

VITAL LEADERSHIP TRAITS 

What are the qualities of a good leader? Leadership isn’t something people are born with – it’s a skill that can be cultivated over time. When you’re able to develop strong leadership traits, you’re positioned to inspire your entire team. Here are eight basic leadership qualities that everyone can refine in order to be a more productive leader:

1. CONFIDENCE

True leaders are confident and know they can think – and act – outside the box to take their companies to the next level. They know that leadership qualities like openness, emotional agility and resourcefulness are often more important leadership traits than being able to make a sale or wow a group of investors.

How does one display the confidence necessary to be a good leader? More than half of human communication comes from nonverbal cues. Know how to set the right tone as a leader by letting your confidence show. Confident leaders win over and inspire others because everyone else wants to embody confidence, too. Practice strong non-verbal communication by standing tall, making eye contact and learning to control your fidgeting. When you appear confident – even if you don’t actually feel confident – others will be more likely to follow your lead and believe in your authority.

2. FOCUS

Have you learned how to really focus in on what you want? Those who embody strong leadership qualities keep their eye on the prize. They are very organized and plan well ahead while still remaining spontaneous enough to handle unexpected challenges. Like a grandmaster in a chess game, a good leader thinks out each strategy and understands how each of his or her actions will affect the rest of any given scenario.

Distractions can be one of your biggest business saboteurs, but those who display strong leadership traits don’t let them intrude. This is one of the key leadership strengths because, as Tony always says, where focus goes, energy flows. Limit distractions by creating an environment that is conducive to focus. For example, your office can have an open door policy between certain hours so your team can freely communicate, but make it known that you will not be as available during your “focus times.” This helps you get deeper into your work without having to deal with the many moving parts of your business.

Keep your endgame in sight by cultivating your ability to focus. Having a clear purpose allows you to not only achieve your goals, but to foster leadership among your staff as well.

3. HONESTY

Many people believe that successful business and political leaders are inherently dishonest, but great leaders treat others just as they expect to be treated – in an honest fashion. Being honest is not only one of the leadership traits that will allow you to lead your business with integrity, but it’s the only real way to make strong connections with others. Whether you’re trying to lead your business or your family, the truth is that every single person you interact with looks to your own honesty and code of ethics to set his or her own bar. Make sure each member of your team or household knows what your culture and core expectations are, and show them how much you value honesty in your everyday interactions with others through setting a valuable example. Don’t sugarcoat information, but find a way to deliver honest comments and feedback in a direct and compassionate manner.

4. POSITIVITY

One of the leadership qualities of truly great leaders is the sense of abundant positivity that energizes everyone around them. It’s not that they never have moments of frustration or disappointment, but that they’re able to take a positive approach to tackle challenging issues. Inspiring leaders know how to turn setbacks into successes and make a point to display optimistic leadership traits on a daily basis. Choose empowering beliefs that will propel you forward, not negative thought patterns that will weigh you down. Seeing challenges as opportunities rather than obstacles is one of the most important leadership qualities you can display to your teammates. When you practice positive thinking, it becomes your powerful cognitive habit and allows you to reassure and elevate those around you.

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5. DECISIVENESS

Every single person in a leadership role of any kind sometimes has to make difficult decisions. How you handle these decisions is one of the most important leadership qualities. The ability to be decisive can mean the difference between getting through a tough time or crisis and folding under pressure. Making these kinds of calls doesn’t always mean you will be well-loved, but when you use good judgment to make decisions, it will earn you the respect of others. Even if you make a wrong decision and need to correct it, showing decisiveness during tough times is a better leadership quality than waiting around for something to happen or letting others make the decision for you. An effective leader is one who makes the decision that is right, not the decision that is easy.

6. ABILITY TO INSPIRE

We all bring natural gifts to our careers. Discovering what your natural leadership traits are is an excellent way to inspire others to also find their own strengths. One of the secrets to wild success is honing your leadership vision and communicating it to others. Inspiration is what pushes people to plow through difficult times – and to work on achieving their goals even when times are undemanding. You define yourself with your identity, or in business, your brand. Refocus and sharpen your identity often so you will inspire those on your team.

7. EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

Knowing your team’s – and your own – communication styles is one of the leadership qualities that will strengthen your business the most. Great leaders don’t just communicate information to their team – they also know how to communicate goals and their vision to get their team excited.

You can’t underestimate the power of words. The best leaders know that words transform emotions and lead to breakthroughs. Like many important leadership qualities, being an effective communicator is often more about what you don’t do than what you do. Constructive communication often means closing your mouth and opening your ears. Deep listening and asking thoughtful questions shows that you care about your employees’ contributions.

8. ACCOUNTABILITY

As a leader, you’re going to make mistakes. While handling them with positivity and a growth mindset is one of the key leadership qualities you must possess, you must also take responsibility for those mistakes. Blaming others, justifying your actions or pretending like mistakes never happened erodes trust among your team and will discourage them from being accountable for their own mistakes. Great leaders take more than their share of blame and less than their share of credit, which creates an organizational culture of trust and humility. When you’re accountable, you can also hold your team accountable for their actions, ultimately creating a sense of responsibility that will keep them continually striving for their personal – and your business’ – goals.

Powerful leaders have a clear sense of purpose and are able to take their teams in the right direction. Additionally, as they lead their group, they utilize strong leadership qualities to create a supportive sense of community for all who are involved. Becoming an empowering leader is about not only creating something that’s better for the group, but encouraging those around you to embrace their strong leadership traits as well.

9. EMPATHY

What are the qualities of a good leader – and is empathy one of them? According to the U.S. Army, it is. As Forbes reports, the Army Field Manual on Leadership Development states emphatically and repeatedly that empathy is essential for strong leadership. As surprising as this may seem, the logic is straightforward. When you’re trying to reach someone, having empathy allows you to discern whether you’ve gotten your message across. When you’re able to see another person’s perspective, you’re able to predict the effect your words and actions will have on them. Without empathy, the reverse happens and you risk alienating the very people you’re attempting to create connections with, whether they’re your customers, employees, colleagues or competitors. Cultivating empathy is the precursor to almost every other “soft skill” required for leadership, from self-awareness to critical thinking.

10. HUMILITY

Humility is one of the oft-misunderstood leadership qualities that’s actually critical for heading any type of team. As the Huffington Post reports, humility is one of the most important leadership traits, but it doesn’t mean being a doormat. Humility shapes your character so that you’re able to embrace your own weaknesses without losing confidence. From this place of self-respect, you’re receptive to others’ feedback, which opens you up to new ideas and solutions. Humility also softens you to genuine connections with other people, since humility makes you approachable. You’re able to interact with your team, customers and colleagues from a place of shared humanity, which breaks down communication barriers.

What are the qualities of a good leader, and how can you develop them? Getting to know yourself is your first step. Learn which of the six human needs drives you with Tony Robbins’ quick assessment. From there, you’re on your way to developing the leadership traits that will take your business – and your life – to the next level.

 
*This blog was created for educational purposes and since it was so good, I left backlinks to original at tonyobins.com.

5 Powerful Way To Promote Your Business

5 Powerful Ways to Promote Your Business

Advertising and advancement are indispensable for the accomplishment of an online business. Without a solid advertising technique, then, at that point no one will think about your image. Try to give a shot something like one of these approaches to advance your business so you can guide traffic to your site.

Google Ads (PPC)

Google publicizing is perhaps the most notable types of paid promoting. Advertisers bid on catchphrases and these promotions appear on Google when a client looks for a specific hunt term. The publicist will pay Google when a client taps on one of the supported promotions. This is an incredible method to advance your business. It additionally works undeniably more immediately contrasted with ordinary SEO strategies, however it requires somewhat more mastery to pull it off.

Facebook Ads

Facebook is turning out to be increasingly more like a web crawler, and individuals are posting their items and administrations on this webpage. Facebook offers an enormous assortment of promoting types to suit each plan of action. It likewise offers something many refer to as supported stories. These accounts are a sort of natural promoting method where sponsors can feature what clients are saying about the brand.

Quora

Quora is an inquiry and answer site that is incredibly well known. It is an extraordinary method to get your image out there. You should simply address inquiries on this site according to the current theme. So assuming you have a blog about individual accounting, you could respond to questions encompassing this region. Beside individuals seeing your logo and brand, you can place in offshoot connections or connections to your blog.

Joint efforts

Teaming up with different organizations is still as significant as could be expected. This is a strategy that consultants and little online entrepreneurs don’t utilize regularly enough. For instance, it would be a lot simpler for 5 free bloggers to analyze ways they could team up than for each individual to do it in isolation.

Meeting Face to Face

Meeting individuals face to face is additionally a vital part of online achievement. It brings an expanded degree of trust and genuineness to the business relationship. You can become acquainted with individuals on an individual level. While employing specialists is extraordinary for effectiveness, you will require a couple of individuals to interface with on an unmistakable level. It can likewise make the entire cycle of accomplishing independence from the rat race undeniably more charming as you can chat with individuals eye to eye as opposed to informing stages.

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2 Musts When Starting An E-Commerce Shop

Online shopping is the latest trend among customers. Why would you still go to the shop personally when you can do shopping from the comforts of your own home? Because of the rising popularity of online shopping, more and more business persons are setting up their own e-commerce websites to meet the needs of customers and of course, earn big money online.

There is a very bright future for e-commerce websites. As long as there are needs that should be met, there will be customers. For ecommerce website owners, earning money online can be so easy. If people need your products and services, your website will stay alive as long as you want.

Online Competition For Ecommerce Websites

Because of the increasing numbers of online shoppers, there is a need for more e-commerce websites. The problem, however, is that there seem to be several e-commerce websites now. A lot of business persons have answered the call to sell something online. This makes online competition very tough.

Just think about this, if you sell health and beauty products online, there are hundred more several websites like yours. They also offer the same products and services. If there is one customer looking for a health product, he has a hundred choices to choose from. So how can you increase your websiteís chance of getting that customer?

Plan Ahead And Market Your E-Commerce Website

This is one thing that most e-commerce website owners do not completely understand. Most of them think that once they have set up their websites, they donít have to do anything anymore. They will just sit and wait for sales. This may be true ages ago, but with the tough competition now, if you donít do anything, you wonít get any sales.

E-commerce websites need two things to consider. First is planning and the second is marketing. Before setting up the website, there must be a thorough planning first. In planning, you must consider the target market, budget, design and other factors that will affect the overall performance of the website.

Second is website marketing. After you have set up your website, you need to work on a marketing campaign. Through marketing, you can make your website more popular and visible to your target market. There are several web marketing options which you can use. The choice of the web marketing option depends on the need of your website.

Remember not to stop working on your website after the set up. If you stop working on it, the sales will also stop. Continually market your website for continuous sales. 

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HOW TO GAIN CONFIDENCE

HOW TO GAIN CONFIDENCE

HOW TO BUILD CONFIDENCE

by: Adam Rubin

Have you ever jumped out of bed in a fantastic mood and had the entire day go your way? How about the opposite? How you feel is the direct result of your state of mind. If you’re stressed about the future you may feel anxious. When your focused on the past, you’re going to be living in a state of depression.

During times like this is when you feel like nothing can go right and your confidence will take a direct hit. But if you consistently feel gratitude, love and joy, you’re going to be living in an amazing, positive state in which nothing bothers you. You’ll move through your day with purpose, completing your tasks with enthusiasm and building confidence along the way. This is all part of learning how to believe in yourself, a skill that fits hand-in-glove with learning how to gain confidence.

 

HOW TO USE EMOTIONS TO GAIN CONFIDENCE

Humans are very unique and  have a incredible capacity for experiencing a wide range of emotions. The problem is letting your emotions dictate your life and how you experience it without even figuring out why you feel that type of way, letting your emotions control you. Over time, this affects how you feel and act every single day. If you’re fueled by a sense of well-being, you’ll exude happiness and calm. If you’re bogged down by negativity, those around you will sense your unhappiness and fear. 

 The truth is that you have the power to be in complete control over how you feel, including whether or not you feel confident. Once you understand that you can control these feelings, you’re well on your way to understanding how to build confidence. Confidence is not something people are born with – it’s something you must create. Building confidence creates the feeling of certainty that you can accomplish what you set out to do. Confidence is like any other emotion. It is something you feel, and you can train yourself to tap into the mindset you need.

 

 

 

HOW TO GAIN CONFIDENCE BY DISCOVERING YOUR PURPOSE

What does gaining confidence mean to you personally? Do you present at conventions where you interact with a huge number of people? Do you run a company or a team and need to present a strong sense of leadership? Maybe there is someone special out there you would like to make a good impression on? The first step in building confidence is knowing why you want to achieve it.

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Once you know your purpose, learning how to build confidence becomes a matter of muscle memory, your brain being the muscle. In order to accomplish your goals, you need to present yourself as a confident person. There is no other way to do it. Push past the fear that is holding you back, second-guessing yourself will open the door to hesitance, doubt and fear. As you let go of negative thoughts that are holding you back, your body will take the cue that it’s time to stand up straighter, stop fidgeting and present the most confident version of yourself. Your mind and body begin a positive feedback loop, each part noticing the increasing confidence of the other and responding in kind.

 

CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE TO BUILD CONFIDENCE

Building confidence is a process, revealing any beliefs that are causing you self-doubt. The language we use can determine how we feel. That goes especially for the internal dialogue. What kind of questions are you asking yourself? If the things that come to mind are, “How come I’m not successful?” “Am I not smart enough to reach my goal?” “Do other people see me as a failure?” then you are setting yourself up for failure.

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Shift the pattern of your thoughts and ask yourself things like, “Why shouldn’t I accomplish everything I set my mind to?” and “Why would I waste time on my anxieties instead of focusing on my strengths?” When you ask a better question, you get a better answer. As Adam Rubin says, “Whatever you focus on will become your reality.” The essence of building confidence is this: If you go into a situation knowing that you can handle it – whatever it is – then that’s exactly what you’ll do.

By assessing your limiting beliefs and shifting your pattern of thought, learning how to gain confidence comes naturally. If you find yourself asking negative, limiting questions when it’s time to be confident, stop yourself. Think something positive about yourself instead, and begin focusing on all the reasons you’ll succeed instead of why you’ll fail.

 

HOW TO BUILD CONFIDENCE CENTERS ON YOUR PASSION

 

There’s one incredible trick that will help you figure out how to build confidence even when you’re at your absolute lowest: thinking about something you’re proud of.
confidence - find your purposeWhen you’re feeling unsure of yourself, remember a recent accomplishment. Maybe you did something incredible at work, or you recently helped a family member. It can be as straightforward as helping someone lift a box or as intricate as solving a complex problem on an important project. Whatever it is, it’s something you did, and no one else. That’s worth celebrating. Recognizing this accomplishment and your ability to do it will instantly elevate your mood and allow you to channel some incredible self-confidence.

The smallest amount of headway takes you leaps and bounds when you’re learning how to gain confidence. Your mind begins to think in positive terms, not negative ones. If you gave an incredible presentation to your company last year, why wouldn’t you be able to complete your next project by the allotted deadline? If you’re the same person who ran your son’s baseball team while getting promoted to vice president in the same year, what’s holding you back from achieving this new goal, whatever it may be? Channeling moments of pride can help you to see the big picture more clearly, ultimately allowing you to become more confident.

 

As you practice building confidence more frequently and begin to believe in your own abilities, you’ll be able to access those feelings of well-being and pride faster and more often.

You are in charge of your emotions and can use them to shape your life however you choose. Decide today that you’re going to be a more confident, positive version of yourself, and you’ll have no other option than to succeed.

 

STRATEGIES FOR LEARNING HOW TO BUILD CONFIDENCE

Practice makes perfect when it comes to learning how to build confidence. Knowledge alone will not be enough, you must take action. Employ the following strategies to believe in yourself in any situation. 

 

1. USE CONFIDENT BODY LANGUAGE

Even if you don’t feel confident all the time, you can appear confident when needed by adjusting your body language. Research suggests that, when you project confidence through your actions, the degree to which you “feel” those actions makes the confidence feel real, too. To put this principle into action, tell yourself you’re capable of achieving your goal. Then feel the feeling of confidence you’re projecting. With practice, building confidence becomes natural. 

2. DEVELOP WORKPLACE CONFIDENCE

Learning how to build confidence is pivotal to succeeding in your career. Whether you’re in marketing, management, or another role, you must be able to communicate with self-assurance. Sales strategies are effective confidence-builders in any field. Achieve large success by building confidence with these proven sales strategies

3. EMBRACE A GROWTH MINDSET

Discovering self-confidence requires consistent action and thought. When you’re overcoming your self-doubt, having a growth mindset is key. When you view your challenges as opportunities, you’re able to approach them with assurance. You begin to view setbacks as progress, so they become part of mastering how to build confidence. 

4. PRACTICE POSITIVE THINKING

Feeling confident starts from within with positive thinking. When you’re building confidence, learn how to reframe your mindset to start thinking more positively and feel more self-assured as a result. We’re not talking about wearing rose-colored glasses – we’re talking about having a realistic sense of your capabilities. When you build a habit of positive self-talk, you’re able to view setbacks as stepping stones to success. 

5. LET GO OF THE NEED FOR CONTROL

When you’re focused on retaining a sense of control in life, it actually reduces your confidence. Nothing in life is truly within our control. By letting go, you’re able to accept circumstances as-is, which is a powerful component of learning how to build confidence. Learn how to recognize your need for control. Take steps toward letting go and finding a true sense of contentment and confidence in life. 

6. ACCEPT YOURSELF

When you’re learning how to build confidence, it’s tempting to focus on your “ideal self” – the person you wish you were, a superhero who never experiences fear, doubt or shame. While managing negative emotions is certainly part of building confidence, shutting down your feelings doesn’t help. Accept yourself as you are in any emotional state. When you accept yourself unconditionally, you’re able to look at your feelings objectively and appreciate what they teach you about yourself. 

7. TREAT OTHERS WITH RESPECT AND COMPASSION

When it comes to building confidence, how you treat others is as important as how you treat yourself. When you practice “soft skills” like respect, compassion, empathy and deep listening, you build rapport with others. When you feel good about your relationships, you’re mastering how to gain confidence with every interaction you have.

8. APPRECIATE YOUR VALUES AND LIVE BY THEM

Part of the problem with self-doubt is that you begin to doubt the core of who you are – the values that inspire you and guide your decisions. To truly learn how to build confidence, take pride in your values. They make you uniquely you. And when you make value-driven choices, there’s no room for doubt. You’re living up to your own standards, and that’s the definition of an extraordinary life filled with passion and purpose. 

Opioid Crisis: Addiction On The Rise

Opioid Crisis: Addiction On The Rise

ADDICTION ON THE RISE, OPIOID CRISIS ON LONG ISLAND, NEW YORK, UNITED STATES EPIDEMICE

“Opioid Crisis”: Addiction On The Rise

     Are we part of the problem or the solution?

As we all read in the news, hundreds of thousands of lives are being taken from addiction. Some due to overdose, while others during recovery. I have had my own personal experiences with addiction & mental health disorders. Attended some of the most “luxurious rehab facilities” for drug addiction/dual diagnostic to “state run facilities”. Witnessed the good, the bad and know for a fact nothing is changing for the better.

Narcan has allowed many people suffering from addiction a second chance, while others see it more like a safety net. Just a band-aid, which in the long run may do more harm than good for some. I was reading comments how teenagers are carrying around narcan like it’s pepper spray. Which isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it made me think, who are these people hanging around that they need to make sure they are “prepared”. If no one in your close group is using, why is the fear still there? 

 Addiction Industry

While looking up statistics on search engines, I came across a whole industry dedicated to teaching others how easy it is to start up and profit off drug rehabilitation centers. I don’t want to name drop, for I am sure they mean well, but these consultants who specialize in “Drug Rehabs” show you a detailed description on how for as little as $7500, you can start a rehab, plus their fee.

These days just about anyone with the means can start a rehab, detox, out-patient or half-way house. In fact, I have seen with my own eyes, one company investing in every level of care down to the lab where they process drug toxicity screens. Why you may ask? They know the statistics. Clients slip up and start the process of re-admittance fees plus over charging your insurance. 

opiod overdose graph showing an increase in total number of overdose deaths

For instance, I was present at a new halfway house, where the owner told me the real reason they drug test 3 times a week, when 2 is more than enough is because the lab gives them a kick back from billing insurance companies a modest bill.  More testing, equals more money split between the lab and the facility. Now, they are cutting out the middleman, investing in their own labs. (Some flop-house allows you to pay to stay)

Are Drug Rehab Centers Working?

With so many facilities on the rise, why is the relapse rate at 97%?  

There are amazing people out there who are making a difference, but are getting let go to hire cheaper replacements. All of us can agree that there are so many facilities with open beds available, but only if you have the right insurance or cash on hand. Otherwise, depending on the state your in, hospital settings, with waiting lists may be in your future. That person may have had a moment of clarity, but being put on a waiting list is just an excuse to continue their addiction. Some may even get money for a hotel & food. No Narcan.

If we are being providing “treatment” on any level, then maybe we need to figure out why these treatments statistics are so low. I know the person has to want it, but it’s our job to snap them back into reality and motivate them to want it even more for themselves. 

 

When you tell your patients, “Look to your left and right, only 1 of you might make it” on your first day of  treatment, kind of . A 97% relapse rate should be a red flag that we don’t just need more facilities that take insurance, but that we need more quality treatment techniques with the resources they need for success. I’ve “successfully” completed more programs than I can count. From 7 days to a year and a half, yet not one of them could I give full credit to. 

Recovery

Doctors, therapists & counselors put labels on their patients, and send them home with more medications than was trying to get off. How many people do you know on an anti-depressant that you know of is still unhappy? Nothing changes, if nothing changes. They take a pill, but go back to the same behaviors and thought process that made them depressed.

addiction and recovery, coaching and training, habits and changes arrows pointing in different directions to overcome addiction

The science behind psychology has evolved. Combining the right techniques & strategies in the right sequence can help find the leverage we need to break these negative patterns. And then break them  over and over until that record is so scratched it cannot be re-played.  The problem I noticed was the lack of these tools & techniques being implemented. The same ones that have worked for presidents, celebrities, over millions of people. Instead, we just dig up the past which ends up adding more things to be mad or depressed about in which you would not have thought have before. (Personal Experience) 

We need to understand the core beliefs of the patients in a non-judgmental way. Which everyone has a different belief system to begin with, so not an easy task. In-patent has its place, helping to separate the patient from the drug and detoxify them safely. It’s what comes after that can either make or break a patients success.

WHAT CAN YOU DO?

Resilient Life Management sees a “Limitation” and our mission is to break it, community by community. Join our efforts to educate not just yourselves, but our younger generations. I am living proof that with proper training & coaching, the power to shatter that pattern for good is in your reach. That is when a new positive pattern needs to be conditioned in to replace it, or they will fall right back to old behaviors. It is not a “vacation”  like some of these luxurious rehabs, but they have their place. This is a profound learning experience on how to live a Resilient Life. Relapse, Overdose, doesn’t have to be a part of your story, but it was a part of mine.

Adam Rubin is a proud father of 3 and the owner of Resilient Life Management. Decades of trial & error had led him to become the man he is today. Adam trained and was coached through Anthony Robbins and his team. His unique experience has put him in a position to use his training to help guide individuals and businesses towards growth & success.

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Opioid Crisis: Addiction On The Rise

“Opioid Crisis”: Addiction On The Rise      Are we part of the problem or the solution? As we all read in the news, hundreds of thousands of lives are being taken from addiction. Some due to overdose, while others during recovery. I have had my own personal experiences with addiction & mental health disorders. […]

How To Engage And Retain Customers With AI

How To Engage And Retain Customers With AI

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HOW YOU CAN ENGAGE AND RETAIN CUSTOMERS WITH AI

 

YOUR CUSTOMERS WANT CONVENIENT, ACCURATE, AND ON-DEMAND INTERACTION

Posted By: Adam Rubin

 

Anyone who runs their own business knows that clients are everything. They are the backbone of a firm that is thriving, and they are sometimes the hardest to please. Achieving client satisfaction is part of the thrill of entrepreneurship, but it is also one of its amazing stressors.

AI interactions will probably be must-haves for your business personally, as your company requires a media presence in which your clients can locate and contact you. Clients are coming to expect quick and automated information when and how they want it. Clients expect near-instantaneous responses and they want the option to join 24 hours a day, seven days per week. That demand isn’t something companies will readily meet.

They estimate that people exchange 2 billion messages with businesses over Facebook Messenger alone every month. Add to SMS texts or direct messages with Twitter, along with other channels you will see customers, and your clients will inevitably embrace and be eager to interact with your businesses. The amount of messaging program users in the United States will reach nearly 150 million this year, — over 45 percent of the population. The truth is, if you are not a part of those discussions, you are missing out on potentially transformative customer interactions and impeding the development of your own organization.

 

 

YOUR NEW CUSTOMER SUCCESS AGENT

AI can help give you the edge to become more competitive and enhance retention. This enables your business to grow.

AI is becoming more affordable, accessible, and easier to execute, and as it becomes more practical for small businesses to incorporate, entrepreneurs are realizing how valuable the technology can be. From website building to copyediting, AI may function as your jack of all trades. But maybe the biggest gap that AI can close for your company is through how you interact with clients. AI will help you attain increased quality customer involvement without using more of your time.

 

 

THE NEW ENGAGEMENT RATIO

In reality, the 2018 Condition of Chatbots Report found that 69% of customers prefer chatbots for quick communication with brands. By implementing an AI chatbot you talk to this majority and better serve your customer needs — replying their questions and making connections 24/7, and communication through the channels they prefer.

 

 

 ENGAGEMENT 24/7

Chatbots that solve problems not only can answer client queries but also understand how to escalate a scenario when necessary for the good of the company. They permit you to direct your attention to transferring the customer’s needs, not just addressing the customer questions. With how far the technology has arrived, AI is something your company can get started with today, without major investments of money, time, and experience. Your clients don’t have to understand how easy it is. 

Of course, you can’t be expected to handle these potential channels. The good thing is that you don’t need to, and your clients may even prefer it that way. A recent Gartner report declared that 85 percent of customer interactions will be automatic by 2020. This is valuable time saved for you and your customers. After all, the other 15% – the 15% which can’t and should not be automatic — is where you have to be devoting your energy. All these are the interactions with the potential for upsell and opportunity. Without the aid of a chatbot, you conduct the possibility of shedding these discussions amid the noise of simple questions.

Still, if you are like most business owners, then you hesitant to hand over your customer’s satisfaction to a chatbot. You live or die by your own customers and automating these engagements seems dangerous or mad. I get it. However, the truth of the matter is that you want returning clients rather than one time customers and your clients more than probably want an automatic response to their questions, especially when it’s convenient, precise, and always available. As long as their question gets answered, or it solves their problem, how they obtained the answer is irrelevant. 

We have to adapt to the times. It’s been a long time since dial up internet connection and AOL. If they don’t get the answer from you, they most likely head on down the list. 

How To End Procrastination Forever!

How To End Procrastination Forever!

Even the best of us have fell into the pits of procrastination. There are many ways end this, but like I always say, knowing the final outcome you are intended to accomplish is a must. If this is always on your mind, every step closer should be exhilarating. You set your desire and took massive action. Sometimes using Juice Words to tasks or projects that you dislike the most could be helpful in reminding you. Check out mu last blog where I mention Juice Words for more on that Here are a few more tips:

  1. Project Planning: With the outcome on your mind, a plan of action should be mapped out before hand. The night before, plan what you attend to accomplish the next day.
  2. Visualize & Affirm: If you can’t picture the end result the outcome and the path/steps in your head. Your heart will pause. Always remember the Why? the purpose. Why did you wan’t this outcome when you started? Turn that want into a must. “I must complete this paperwork in order to achieve my goal.”
  3. Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone and go to the Necessary Zone: It is easy to stay in your comfort zone and do the same thing you always do, but that is not growth. If we’re not growing, we’re moving backwards.It is Necessary: to Grow, to Learn More, to Serve More, to Get Better, to Grow Relationships, to Improve on the Skills Needed to get to the result.
    1. DON’T be afraid to reach your goal’s. Ask yourself, What do you need to do? WHY??? Go into the unknown. Get uncomfortable and master your craft. Get over the fear of being embarrassed. It’s okay to feel like a fool at first when your learning something new. You haven’t done it, yet! If you want to be or do something you’ve never done before, you must do things you’ve never done.
No Goals=No Growth No Clarity=No Change
SMALL CHANGES TO BIG RESULTS

SMALL CHANGES TO BIG RESULTS

SMALL CHANGES TO BIG RESULTS

How a small change can lead to a huge result.

 

In business, it’s the little changes that lead to the greatest development. At the point when your business isn’t going as arranged, it’s anything but difficult to feel as though nothing is working and that everything should be changed. In all actuality, you’re just a few inches from where you should be.

We can find open doors for streamlining and expanding in each region of your business: generating leads, prospecting, closing deals, upselling, and so forth. The key is to comprehend your organization’s present procedure and results in each zone. Envision where difficulties may emerge and after that activate your group with an action plan intended to innovate.
 

There are five phases to grow profits in these areas:

 
 

1. INCREASE YOUR LEADS AND DRIVE MORE TRAFFIC: GET MORE LEADS

 
How are you presently getting leads? Is it true that you are neglecting any potential traffic openings? Are your promoting endeavors increasing the value of the customer? Investigate your promoting techniques, media and break down how you can amplify your leads.
 

2. CHANGE YOUR BUSINESS PROCEDURES:

 
Regardless of whether face to face, on the telephone or on the web, the key to development is to make an increasingly successful and important commitment with qualified prospects. Each discussion must get consideration, construct affinity and offer something profitable for it to connect with a customer. Investigate your business procedure and decide how your procedure gives immaterial incentive to your client.

3. CHANGE HOW YOU DO BUSINESS: GET MORE CUSTOMERS

 
Each deal procedure mostly comprises 2-4 stages. Is yours an all around oiled machine? Are there any breakdowns all the while? What might help make it increasingly streamlined? Regardless of what your procedure is, it must bring about an underlying close rate, a subsequent close rate or a referral. Look at your business changes. What number of significant discussions would you say you are having? It is safe to say that you are settling negotiations? What is the nearby rate? It is safe to say that you are requesting referrals? Referrals are multiple times bound to purchase contrasted with a virus lead.
 

4. WHAT ARE YOU WORTH?: GET MORE CASH

 
Increase the value of your item or administration to get more from customers. Investigate your present offers and decide how much worth the customer is getting. Is your offer really powerful? Do you have to change your offer? Have you thought about groups, new administrations, and disquieting as approaches to build esteem?
 

5. INCREASE VALUE: GIVE MORE AND GET MORE

 
At the point when customers feel they are getting an incredible worth, they become raving fans. Increase the value of your clients by catching up with all customers, including referrals, decays and old customers. How might you enhance increment buys, customer maintenance, and customer reactivation?
See how your business is running with our Free Business Assessment. For more hands on approach, look into a Business Coach and Business Coaching For Teams.
How To Be Happy At Work

How To Be Happy At Work

How To Be Happy At Work

“Don’t Just Live Paycheck to Paycheck”

Year over year, the statistics are staggering. Most people (66% in the U.S. and over 80% globally) are disengaged or highly disengaged at work. We can translate this disengagement to boredom or misery or worse!
 
For companies, the costs of employees being unhappy at work are heavy and equates to billions of dollars in lost productivity. For the people who are disengaged and not happy at work, this is nothing short of life stifling. Most of us spend more than half of our waking hours working or doing work-related activities. That we are anything less than fulfilled is cheating ourselves out of the best times of our lives. If you constantly say, “I am so unhappy at work,” there are solutions. In fact, there is a simple strategy and accompanying framework that can get you out of the doldrums and into the career you’ve always wanted.

STRATEGY

Many factors feed into the high levels of people being unhappy at work, but the most critical is a flawed strategic approach to career design.

 

How most of us think about our careers could be called a “building block” or a “logic-ing” strategy. We go to school. We study something that we have some interest in. We have an internship or two. Then, it is time to get a job. We scan the market and ask ourselves what we can logically do with the knowledge and experience we have. We lock in on a solution, and we work without ever taking into consideration that we may be unhappy at work. As years pass, we amass more skills and experiences and we ask ourselves what we can logically do with the new knowledge and abilities. We scan the market, lock in on a logical solution, and repeat the cycle. The problem with this strategy is that if you are like most and decided about your career early on that weren’t particularly good or are no longer in line with your values, all you’re doing is compounding bad decisions on top of bad decisions. By never thinking about your passions or what you love to do, you’re dooming
yourself to be perpetually unhappy at work.
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A much more effective strategy is planting your flag. This requires taking a few steps back and asking some critical questions including, “How do I want to be in the world?” “What do I want to create?” “How do I want to use my life?” “What kind of impact do I want to have?” You also need to look at what drives you. When you have a true purpose behind your decisions, you can align them with your values and ensure that you are always moving in a direction that will fulfill you.
You then design these items out by hand, in Power-point or on whiteboards and then align your skills, resources and talents behind creating THIS destination.

FRAMEWORK

 
How do you build what you’ve designed and how do you use this to ensure you will never be unhappy at work?
The three-part moonshot strategy to creating a fulfilling career is the same every single time you embark on the journey. It works whether you’d like a promotion at your current job, would like to do the same thing at a different company down the road or if you want to quit investment banking and go sell baskets in the rainforest. Basically, we can re-design it to fit any purpose, and it’s the perfect solution to being not happy at work.
 
 

COMMITMENT

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Truly committing to creating a more fulfilling career is the crucial first step. Commitment can come proactively by listening to that quiet voice in your head that asks, “Is this all there is? Could there be something more?” Once you’ve identified your purpose and drive these decisions, usually come much easier. If your current job does not align with your values, you’ll always be unhappy at work. Identifying this as the reason will help you commit to something new. This happened when I quit the corporate world just over five years ago. I knew that there was something else waiting for me and that my feelings of “I am so unhappy at work” did not need to continue. To increase commitment, I explored both what I, the world and my family would gain by me creating this change and what I would lose out on if I didn’t make the move. People are motivated by either pain or pleasure. Putting the two together can be a powerful commitment strengthener. A lay-off, downsizing, a firing or a family move can also force commitment. Either way, commitment is the first critical piece.

CREATE

 
Once one has committed to making a change, then comes the real fun – getting into action and creating a new career based on your values that drive you.This is when you can truly start feeling the possibility of never being unhappy at work again. The first component of this is self-discovery. More than knowing the “what” one wants to build, it is understanding the “why.” A great place to begin to clarify the things we value most is the design of your moonshot. Are you looking for adventure, freedom, security, teamwork or impact?
 
Creating an extraordinary life means doing it on your terms and no one else’s. What does your design tell you? These values are then used as filters to rank potential new opportunities and ensure your new career is in line with your values. Next comes community building. We reach out to people, whether we know them directly or not, who can help us gather the information and insights we need to determine if a potential career path is aligned with the things we value most.
Then comes the part of creating a fulfilling career that people usually don’t like to talk about. These are the fears we have about stepping into the unknown and the assumptions we have about what is or isn’t possible. Assumptions, which are all rooted in fear, probably play the biggest role in keeping us from the career we want to have. Assumptions are the precursors to those limiting beliefs that kept us unhappy at work for all those years. I’m too young. I’m too old. I’ve never done it before. I don’t know the right people. I don’t have access to capital.
 

Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

The thing about assumptions is that they are either wholly untrue or simply parameters that we need to consider in building our next steps. One of the big assumptions I hear goes something like, “I couldn’t leave this job. I have a mortgage to pay (or kids’ education to pay for… or both).” Do you really believe that being unhappy at work is worth the paycheck? Or are you willing to take a risk to have it all?
Is the job you have today the only job in the world that pays whatever you’re earning or more? We often assume a false dichotomy – either I will be happy and living in a park on hopes and dreams OR I will be unhappy at work but financially secure. There are infinite ways to create anything, including happiness and financial security (or freedom). In this scenario, you simply define your minimum workable number and know that you won’t make a leap for any less than what will give you the financial security and freedom you want.
Finally, there are the tactical components of creating a new opportunity – the community building conversations, résumé and LinkedIn profiles. Google can be a great source for the “how to” on tactics. With that said, the most important distinction to help you frame your tactics is understanding the importance of telling the story of who you are becoming and not who you were before. If you continue to act as the person you were before, you will almost guarantee that you will remain unhappy at work no matter what new career you choose.
 
I worked with a successful entrepreneur who was having trouble getting the funding and partnerships she was looking for. When I asked her to tell me about herself, she shared what a great school she had attended, how she was the youngest person to achieve as much as she had in her prior job and the many accolades she had won. She mentioned nothing about the company she was now running or the powerful impact and potential financial return of the new endeavor. As soon as she flipped her story, her success skyrocketed.
 
 

CONTRIBUTE

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Once you’ve created the next new and fulfilling career move for yourself, there is one more critical step, which is to contribute. No good story ends when the hero or heroine wins the war or slays the dragon. It ends when the protagonist goes back to the community to share the bounty of what they’ve won. This is what will truly ensure that being not happy at work will never be part of your new endeavor and that your career will be full of purpose and meaning. So, in this case, ask yourself how and to whom you can contribute. Can you mentor someone is on a similar journey to help them shorten their path? Can you provide critical insights and information to others who are looking to enter your industry? How can you strengthen the community that helped you create the opportunity you now have?
Once you have committed, created, and contributed, you have truly created a dream career and will never again utter the phrase “I am so unhappy at work.”
 
Author: Elatia Abate 

How To Boost Confidence

How To Boost Confidence

CONFIDENCE

Have you ever jumped out of bed in a fantastic mood and had the entire day go your way? How about the opposite? How you feel directly results from your state of mind. If you’re perpetually stressed and anxious, you will live in a depressed state–everything in your life will feel like it’s going awry. During times like this, you may feel you can’t do anything right, and your confidence will take a direct hit. If you consistently feel gratitude, love, and joy, you will live in an amazing, positive state in which nothing bothers you. You’ll move through your day with purpose, completing your tasks with enthusiasm and building self-confidence along the way.
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How do we reach these very different states?
By giving in to our emotions. If you let them dictate how you feel without figuring out why you feel a particular way, your emotions will influence your actions. Over time, this affects how you feel and act every single day. If you’re fueled by a sense of well-being, you’ll exude happiness and calm. If you’re bogged down by negativity, those around you will sense your unhappiness and fear. How can you avoid the latter?
 
In actuality, you are completely in charge of how you feel, including whether you feel confident. Confidence is not something people are born with or have–it’s something you can create. It’s the feeling of certainty that you can accomplish what you set out to do. Confidence is like any other emotion. It is something you feel, and you can train yourself to access it in an instant. 

WHAT’S YOUR PURPOSE

 
Why is building confidence important to you? Do you present at conventions where you interact with a huge number of people? Do you run a company or a team and need to present a strong sense of leadership? Maybe you’ve started dating and want to make a good impression when you meet a potential new love interest. The first step in building self-confidence is knowing why you want to achieve it.
 
Once you know your purpose, building confidence becomes a matter of retraining your brain. To accomplish your goal, you need to present yourself as a confident person. There is no other way to do it. Ignore the uncertainty that holds you back; Second-guessing yourself will open the door to hesitance, doubt, and fear. As you let go of negative thoughts that are holding you back, your body will take the cue it’s time to stand up straighter, stop fidgeting and present as the best version of yourself. Your mind and body begin a positive feedback loop, each part noticing the increasing confidence of the other and responding in kind.

CONSIDER YOUR QUESTIONS

consider your questions
What questions are you asking yourself? If the things that come to mind are, “How come I’m not successful?” “Am I not smart enough to reach my goal?” “Do other people see me as a failure?” then you are setting yourself up for failure.Shift the pattern of your thoughts and ask yourself things like, “Why shouldn’t I accomplish everything I set my mind to?” and “Why would I waste time on my anxieties instead of focusing on my strengths?” When you ask a better question, you get a better answer. As Tony Robbins says, “Whatever you hold in your mind consistently is exactly what you will experience in your life.” If you go into a situation knowing that you can handle it—whatever it is–then that’s exactly what you’ll do. By assessing your limiting thoughts and beliefs and shifting your pattern of thought, you can more easily gain confidence. If you ask negative, limiting questions when it’s time to be confident, stop yourself. Think something positive about yourself instead and begin focusing on all the reasons you’ll succeed instead of why you’ll fail.

WHAT EXCITES YOU?

 
There’s one incredible trick that will help you figure out how to build confidence even when you’re at your absolute lowest: Thinking about something you’re proud of. When you’re feeling unsure of yourself, remember a recent accomplishment. Maybe you did something incredible at work, or you recently helped a family member. It can be as simple as helping someone lift a box or as intricate as solving a complex problem on an important project. Whatever it is, it’s something you did, and no one else. That’s worth celebrating. Recognizing this accomplishment and your ability to do it will instantly elevate your mood and allow you to channel some incredible self-confidence.
what excites you
Once that happens, your mind thinks in positive terms, not negative ones. If you gave an incredible presentation to your company last year, why wouldn’t you be able to complete your next project by the allotted deadline? If you’re the same person who ran your son’s baseball team while getting promoted to vice president in the same year, what’s holding you back from achieving this new goal, whatever it may be? Channeling moments of pride can help you see the big picture, ultimately allowing you to become more confident.
As you practice tapping into confidence more frequently and believe in your own abilities, you’ll be able to access those feelings of well-being and pride faster and more often. You are in charge of your emotions and can use them to shape your life however you choose. Decide today that you will be a more confident, positive version of yourself, and you’ll have no other option than to succeed.