As we all read in the news, hundreds of thousands of lives are being taken from addiction. Some due to overdose, while others during recovery. I have had my own personal experiences with addiction & mental health disorders. Attended some of the most “luxurious rehab facilities” for drug addiction/dual diagnostic to “state run facilities”. Witnessed the good, the bad and know for a fact nothing is changing for the better.
Narcan has allowed many people suffering from addiction a second chance, while others see it more like a safety net. Just a band-aid, which in the long run may do more harm than good for some. I was reading comments how teenagers are carrying around narcan like it’s pepper spray. Which isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it made me think, who are these people hanging around that they need to make sure they are “prepared”. If no one in your close group is using, why is the fear still there?
While looking up statistics on search engines, I came across a whole industry dedicated to teaching others how easy it is to start up and profit off drug rehabilitation centers. I don’t want to name drop, for I am sure they mean well, but these consultants who specialize in “Drug Rehabs” show you a detailed description on how for as little as $7500, you can start a rehab, plus their fee.
These days just about anyone with the means can start a rehab, detox, out-patient or half-way house. In fact, I have seen with my own eyes, one company investing in every level of care down to the lab where they process drug toxicity screens. Why you may ask? They know the statistics. Clients slip up and start the process of re-admittance fees plus over charging your insurance.
For instance, I was present at a new halfway house, where the owner told me the real reason they drug test 3 times a week, when 2 is more than enough is because the lab gives them a kick back from billing insurance companies a modest bill. More testing, equals more money split between the lab and the facility. Now, they are cutting out the middleman, investing in their own labs. (Some flop-house allows you to pay to stay)
Are Drug Rehab Centers Working?
With so many facilities on the rise, why is the relapse rate at 97%?
There are amazing people out there who are making a difference, but are getting let go to hire cheaper replacements. All of us can agree that there are so many facilities with open beds available, but only if you have the right insurance or cash on hand. Otherwise, depending on the state your in, hospital settings, with waiting lists may be in your future. That person may have had a moment of clarity, but being put on a waiting list is just an excuse to continue their addiction. Some may even get money for a hotel & food. No Narcan.
If we are being providing “treatment” on any level, then maybe we need to figure out why these treatments statistics are so low. I know the person has to want it, but it’s our job to snap them back into reality and motivate them to want it even more for themselves.
When you tell your patients, “Look to your left and right, only 1 of you might make it” on your first day of treatment, kind of . A 97% relapse rate should be a red flag that we don’t just need more facilities that take insurance, but that we need more quality treatment techniques with the resources they need for success. I’ve “successfully” completed more programs than I can count. From 7 days to a year and a half, yet not one of them could I give full credit to.
Doctors, therapists & counselors put labels on their patients, and send them home with more medications than was trying to get off. How many people do you know on an anti-depressant that you know of is still unhappy? Nothing changes, if nothing changes. They take a pill, but go back to the same behaviors and thought process that made them depressed.
The science behind psychology has evolved. Combining the right techniques & strategies in the right sequence can help find the leverage we need to break these negative patterns. And then break them over and over until that record is so scratched it cannot be re-played. The problem I noticed was the lack of these tools & techniques being implemented. The same ones that have worked for presidents, celebrities, over millions of people. Instead, we just dig up the past which ends up adding more things to be mad or depressed about in which you would not have thought have before. (Personal Experience)
We need to understand the core beliefs of the patients in a non-judgmental way. Which everyone has a different belief system to begin with, so not an easy task. In-patent has its place, helping to separate the patient from the drug and detoxify them safely. It’s what comes after that can either make or break a patients success.
WHAT CAN YOU DO?
Resilient Life Management sees a “Limitation” and our mission is to break it, community by community. Join our efforts to educate not just yourselves, but our younger generations. I am living proof that with proper training & coaching, the power to shatter that pattern for good is in your reach. That is when a new positive pattern needs to be conditioned in to replace it, or they will fall right back to old behaviors. It is not a “vacation” like some of these luxurious rehabs, but they have their place. This is a profound learning experience on how to live a Resilient Life. Relapse, Overdose, doesn’t have to be a part of your story, but it was a part of mine.
Adam Rubin is a proud father of 3 and the owner of Resilient Life Management. Decades of trial & error had led him to become the man he is today. Adam trained and was coached through Anthony Robbins and his team. His unique experience has put him in a position to use his training to help guide individuals and businesses towards growth & success.
“Opioid Crisis”: Addiction On The Rise Are we part of the problem or the solution? As we all read in the news, hundreds of thousands of lives are being taken from addiction. Some due to overdose, while others during recovery. I have had my own personal experiences with addiction & mental health disorders. […]
YOUR CUSTOMERS WANT CONVENIENT, ACCURATE, AND ON-DEMAND INTERACTION
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Anyone who runs their own business knows that clients are everything. They are the backbone of a firm that is thriving, and they are sometimes the hardest to please. Achieving client satisfaction is part of the thrill of entrepreneurship, but it is also one of its amazing stressors.
AI interactions will probably be must-haves for your business personally, as your company requires a media presence in which your clients can locate and contact you. Clients are coming to expect quick and automated information when and how they want it. Clients expect near-instantaneous responses and they want the option to join 24 hours a day, seven days per week. That demand isn’t something companies will readily meet.
They estimate that people exchange 2 billion messages with businesses over Facebook Messenger alone every month. Add to SMS texts or direct messages with Twitter, along with other channels you will see customers, and your clients will inevitably embrace and be eager to interact with your businesses. The amount of messaging program users in the United States will reach nearly 150 million this year, — over 45 percent of the population. The truth is, if you are not a part of those discussions, you are missing out on potentially transformative customer interactions and impeding the development of your own organization.
YOUR NEW CUSTOMER SUCCESS AGENT
AI can help give you the edge to become more competitive and enhance retention. This enables your business to grow.
AI is becoming more affordable, accessible, and easier to execute, and as it becomes more practical for small businesses to incorporate, entrepreneurs are realizing how valuable the technology can be. From website building to copyediting, AI may function as your jack of all trades. But maybe the biggest gap that AI can close for your company is through how you interact with clients. AI will help you attain increased quality customer involvement without using more of your time.
THE NEW ENGAGEMENT RATIO
In reality, the 2018 Condition of Chatbots Report found that 69% of customers prefer chatbots for quick communication with brands. By implementing an AI chatbot you talk to this majority and better serve your customer needs — replying their questions and making connections 24/7, and communication through the channels they prefer.
Chatbots that solve problems not only can answer client queries but also understand how to escalate a scenario when necessary for the good of the company. They permit you to direct your attention to transferring the customer’s needs, not just addressing the customer questions. With how far the technology has arrived, AI is something your company can get started with today, without major investments of money, time, and experience. Your clients don’t have to understand how easy it is.
Of course, you can’t be expected to handle these potential channels. The good thing is that you don’t need to, and your clients may even prefer it that way. A recent Gartner report declared that 85 percent of customer interactions will be automatic by 2020. This is valuable time saved for you and your customers. After all, the other 15% – the 15% which can’t and should not be automatic — is where you have to be devoting your energy. All these are the interactions with the potential for upsell and opportunity. Without the aid of a chatbot, you conduct the possibility of shedding these discussions amid the noise of simple questions.
Still, if you are like most business owners, then you hesitant to hand over your customer’s satisfaction to a chatbot. You live or die by your own customers and automating these engagements seems dangerous or mad. I get it. However, the truth of the matter is that you want returning clients rather than one time customers and your clients more than probably want an automatic response to their questions, especially when it’s convenient, precise, and always available. As long as their question gets answered, or it solves their problem, how they obtained the answer is irrelevant.
We have to adapt to the times. It’s been a long time since dial up internet connection and AOL. If they don’t get the answer from you, they most likely head on down the list.
Even the best of us have fell into the pits of procrastination. There are many ways end this, but like I always say, knowing the final outcome you are intended to accomplish is a must. If this is always on your mind, every step closer should be exhilarating. You set your desire and took massive action. Sometimes using Juice Words to tasks or projects that you dislike the most could be helpful in reminding you. Check out mu last blog where I mention Juice Words for more on that Here are a few more tips:
Project Planning: With the outcome on your mind, a plan of action should be mapped out before hand. The night before, plan what you attend to accomplish the next day.
Visualize & Affirm: If you can’t picture the end result the outcome and the path/steps in your head. Your heart will pause. Always remember the Why? the purpose. Why did you wan’t this outcome when you started? Turn that want into a must. “I must complete this paperwork in order to achieve my goal.”
Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone and go to the Necessary Zone: It is easy to stay in your comfort zone and do the same thing you always do, but that is not growth. If we’re not growing, we’re moving backwards.It is Necessary: to Grow, to Learn More, to Serve More, to Get Better, to Grow Relationships, to Improve on the Skills Needed to get to the result.
DON’T be afraid to reach your goal’s. Ask yourself, What do you need to do? WHY??? Go into the unknown. Get uncomfortable and master your craft. Get over the fear of being embarrassed. It’s okay to feel like a fool at first when your learning something new. You haven’t done it, yet! If you want to be or do something you’ve never done before, you must do things you’ve never done.
In business, it’s the little changes that lead to the greatest development. At the point when your business isn’t going as arranged, it’s anything but difficult to feel as though nothing is working and that everything should be changed. In all actuality, you’re just a few inches from where you should be.
We can find open doors for streamlining and expanding in each region of your business: generating leads, prospecting, closing deals, upselling, and so forth. The key is to comprehend your organization’s present procedure and results in each zone. Envision where difficulties may emerge and after that activate your group with an action plan intended to innovate.
There are five phases to grow profits in these areas:
1. INCREASE YOUR LEADS AND DRIVE MORE TRAFFIC: GET MORE LEADS
How are you presently getting leads? Is it true that you are neglecting any potential traffic openings? Are your promoting endeavors increasing the value of the customer? Investigate your promoting techniques, media and break down how you can amplify your leads.
2. CHANGE YOUR BUSINESS PROCEDURES:
Regardless of whether face to face, on the telephone or on the web, the key to development is to make an increasingly successful and important commitment with qualified prospects. Each discussion must get consideration, construct affinity and offer something profitable for it to connect with a customer. Investigate your business procedure and decide how your procedure gives immaterial incentive to your client.
3. CHANGE HOW YOU DO BUSINESS: GET MORE CUSTOMERS
Each deal procedure mostly comprises 2-4 stages. Is yours an all around oiled machine? Are there any breakdowns all the while? What might help make it increasingly streamlined? Regardless of what your procedure is, it must bring about an underlying close rate, a subsequent close rate or a referral. Look at your business changes. What number of significant discussions would you say you are having? It is safe to say that you are settling negotiations? What is the nearby rate? It is safe to say that you are requesting referrals? Referrals are multiple times bound to purchase contrasted with a virus lead.
4. WHAT ARE YOU WORTH?: GET MORE CASH
Increase the value of your item or administration to get more from customers. Investigate your present offers and decide how much worth the customer is getting. Is your offer really powerful? Do you have to change your offer? Have you thought about groups, new administrations, and disquieting as approaches to build esteem?
5. INCREASE VALUE: GIVE MORE AND GET MORE
At the point when customers feel they are getting an incredible worth, they become raving fans. Increase the value of your clients by catching up with all customers, including referrals, decays and old customers. How might you enhance increment buys, customer maintenance, and customer reactivation?
See how your business is running with our Free Business Assessment. For more hands on approach, look into a Business Coach and Business Coaching For Teams.
Year over year, the statistics are staggering. Most people (66% in the U.S. and over 80% globally) are disengaged or highly disengaged at work. We can translate this disengagement to boredom or misery or worse!
For companies, the costs of employees being unhappy at work are heavy and equates to billions of dollars in lost productivity. For the people who are disengaged and not happy at work, this is nothing short of life stifling. Most of us spend more than half of our waking hours working or doing work-related activities. That we are anything less than fulfilled is cheating ourselves out of the best times of our lives. If you constantly say, “I am so unhappy at work,” there are solutions. In fact, there is a simple strategy and accompanying framework that can get you out of the doldrums and into the career you’ve always wanted.
Many factors feed into the high levels of people being unhappy at work, but the most critical is a flawed strategic approach to career design.
How most of us think about our careers could be called a “building block” or a “logic-ing” strategy. We go to school. We study something that we have some interest in. We have an internship or two. Then, it is time to get a job. We scan the market and ask ourselves what we can logically do with the knowledge and experience we have. We lock in on a solution, and we work without ever taking into consideration that we may be unhappy at work. As years pass, we amass more skills and experiences and we ask ourselves what we can logically do with the new knowledge and abilities. We scan the market, lock in on a logical solution, and repeat the cycle. The problem with this strategy is that if you are like most and decided about your career early on that weren’t particularly good or are no longer in line with your values, all you’re doing is compounding bad decisions on top of bad decisions. By never thinking about your passions or what you love to do, you’re dooming
yourself to be perpetually unhappy at work.
A much more effective strategy is planting your flag. This requires taking a few steps back and asking some critical questions including, “How do I want to be in the world?” “What do I want to create?” “How do I want to use my life?” “What kind of impact do I want to have?” You also need to look at what drives you. When you have a true purpose behind your decisions, you can align them with your values and ensure that you are always moving in a direction that will fulfill you.
You then design these items out by hand, in Power-point or on whiteboards and then align your skills, resources and talents behind creating THIS destination.
How do you build what you’ve designed and how do you use this to ensure you will never be unhappy at work?
The three-part moonshot strategy to creating a fulfilling career is the same every single time you embark on the journey. It works whether you’d like a promotion at your current job, would like to do the same thing at a different company down the road or if you want to quit investment banking and go sell baskets in the rainforest. Basically, we can re-design it to fit any purpose, and it’s the perfect solution to being not happy at work.
Truly committing to creating a more fulfilling career is the crucial first step. Commitment can come proactively by listening to that quiet voice in your head that asks, “Is this all there is? Could there be something more?” Once you’ve identified your purpose and drive these decisions, usually come much easier. If your current job does not align with your values, you’ll always be unhappy at work. Identifying this as the reason will help you commit to something new. This happened when I quit the corporate world just over five years ago. I knew that there was something else waiting for me and that my feelings of “I am so unhappy at work” did not need to continue. To increase commitment, I explored both what I, the world and my family would gain by me creating this change and what I would lose out on if I didn’t make the move. People are motivated by either pain or pleasure. Putting the two together can be a powerful commitment strengthener. A lay-off, downsizing, a firing or a family move can also force commitment. Either way, commitment is the first critical piece.
Once one has committed to making a change, then comes the real fun – getting into action and creating a new career based on your values that drive you.This is when you can truly start feeling the possibility of never being unhappy at work again. The first component of this is self-discovery. More than knowing the “what” one wants to build, it is understanding the “why.” A great place to begin to clarify the things we value most is the design of your moonshot. Are you looking for adventure, freedom, security, teamwork or impact?
Creating an extraordinary life means doing it on your terms and no one else’s. What does your design tell you? These values are then used as filters to rank potential new opportunities and ensure your new career is in line with your values. Next comes community building. We reach out to people, whether we know them directly or not, who can help us gather the information and insights we need to determine if a potential career path is aligned with the things we value most.
Then comes the part of creating a fulfilling career that people usually don’t like to talk about. These are the fears we have about stepping into the unknown and the assumptions we have about what is or isn’t possible. Assumptions, which are all rooted in fear, probably play the biggest role in keeping us from the career we want to have. Assumptions are the precursors to those limiting beliefs that kept us unhappy at work for all those years. I’m too young. I’m too old. I’ve never done it before. I don’t know the right people. I don’t have access to capital.
Overcoming Limiting Beliefs
The thing about assumptions is that they are either wholly untrue or simply parameters that we need to consider in building our next steps. One of the big assumptions I hear goes something like, “I couldn’t leave this job. I have a mortgage to pay (or kids’ education to pay for… or both).” Do you really believe that being unhappy at work is worth the paycheck? Or are you willing to take a risk to have it all?
Is the job you have today the only job in the world that pays whatever you’re earning or more? We often assume a false dichotomy – either I will be happy and living in a park on hopes and dreams OR I will be unhappy at work but financially secure. There are infinite ways to create anything, including happiness and financial security (or freedom). In this scenario, you simply define your minimum workable number and know that you won’t make a leap for any less than what will give you the financial security and freedom you want.
Finally, there are the tactical components of creating a new opportunity – the community building conversations, résumé and LinkedIn profiles. Google can be a great source for the “how to” on tactics. With that said, the most important distinction to help you frame your tactics is understanding the importance of telling the story of who you are becoming and not who you were before. If you continue to act as the person you were before, you will almost guarantee that you will remain unhappy at work no matter what new career you choose.
I worked with a successful entrepreneur who was having trouble getting the funding and partnerships she was looking for. When I asked her to tell me about herself, she shared what a great school she had attended, how she was the youngest person to achieve as much as she had in her prior job and the many accolades she had won. She mentioned nothing about the company she was now running or the powerful impact and potential financial return of the new endeavor. As soon as she flipped her story, her success skyrocketed.
Once you’ve created the next new and fulfilling career move for yourself, there is one more critical step, which is to contribute. No good story ends when the hero or heroine wins the war or slays the dragon. It ends when the protagonist goes back to the community to share the bounty of what they’ve won. This is what will truly ensure that being not happy at work will never be part of your new endeavor and that your career will be full of purpose and meaning. So, in this case, ask yourself how and to whom you can contribute. Can you mentor someone is on a similar journey to help them shorten their path? Can you provide critical insights and information to others who are looking to enter your industry? How can you strengthen the community that helped you create the opportunity you now have?
Once you have committed, created, and contributed, you have truly created a dream career and will never again utter the phrase “I am so unhappy at work.”
Have you ever jumped out of bed in a fantastic mood and had the entire day go your way? How about the opposite? How you feel directly results from your state of mind. If you’re perpetually stressed and anxious, you will live in a depressed state–everything in your life will feel like it’s going awry. During times like this, you may feel you can’t do anything right, and your confidence will take a direct hit. If you consistently feel gratitude, love, and joy, you will live in an amazing, positive state in which nothing bothers you. You’ll move through your day with purpose, completing your tasks with enthusiasm and building self-confidence along the way.
How do we reach these very different states?
By giving in to our emotions. If you let them dictate how you feel without figuring out why you feel a particular way, your emotions will influence your actions. Over time, this affects how you feel and act every single day. If you’re fueled by a sense of well-being, you’ll exude happiness and calm. If you’re bogged down by negativity, those around you will sense your unhappiness and fear. How can you avoid the latter?
In actuality, you are completely in charge of how you feel, including whether you feel confident. Confidence is not something people are born with or have–it’s something you can create. It’s the feeling of certainty that you can accomplish what you set out to do. Confidence is like any other emotion. It is something you feel, and you can train yourself to access it in an instant.
WHAT’S YOUR PURPOSE
Why is building confidence important to you? Do you present at conventions where you interact with a huge number of people? Do you run a company or a team and need to present a strong sense of leadership? Maybe you’ve started dating and want to make a good impression when you meet a potential new love interest. The first step in building self-confidence is knowing why you want to achieve it.
Once you know your purpose, building confidence becomes a matter of retraining your brain. To accomplish your goal, you need to present yourself as a confident person. There is no other way to do it. Ignore the uncertainty that holds you back; Second-guessing yourself will open the door to hesitance, doubt, and fear. As you let go of negative thoughts that are holding you back, your body will take the cue it’s time to stand up straighter, stop fidgeting and present as the best version of yourself. Your mind and body begin a positive feedback loop, each part noticing the increasing confidence of the other and responding in kind.
CONSIDER YOUR QUESTIONS
What questions are you asking yourself? If the things that come to mind are, “How come I’m not successful?” “Am I not smart enough to reach my goal?” “Do other people see me as a failure?” then you are setting yourself up for failure.Shift the pattern of your thoughts and ask yourself things like, “Why shouldn’t I accomplish everything I set my mind to?” and “Why would I waste time on my anxieties instead of focusing on my strengths?” When you ask a better question, you get a better answer. As Tony Robbins says, “Whatever you hold in your mind consistently is exactly what you will experience in your life.” If you go into a situation knowing that you can handle it—whatever it is–then that’s exactly what you’ll do. By assessing your limiting thoughts and beliefs and shifting your pattern of thought, you can more easily gain confidence. If you ask negative, limiting questions when it’s time to be confident, stop yourself. Think something positive about yourself instead and begin focusing on all the reasons you’ll succeed instead of why you’ll fail.
WHAT EXCITES YOU?
There’s one incredible trick that will help you figure out how to build confidence even when you’re at your absolute lowest: Thinking about something you’re proud of. When you’re feeling unsure of yourself, remember a recent accomplishment. Maybe you did something incredible at work, or you recently helped a family member. It can be as simple as helping someone lift a box or as intricate as solving a complex problem on an important project. Whatever it is, it’s something you did, and no one else. That’s worth celebrating. Recognizing this accomplishment and your ability to do it will instantly elevate your mood and allow you to channel some incredible self-confidence.
Once that happens, your mind thinks in positive terms, not negative ones. If you gave an incredible presentation to your company last year, why wouldn’t you be able to complete your next project by the allotted deadline? If you’re the same person who ran your son’s baseball team while getting promoted to vice president in the same year, what’s holding you back from achieving this new goal, whatever it may be? Channeling moments of pride can help you see the big picture, ultimately allowing you to become more confident.
As you practice tapping into confidence more frequently and believe in your own abilities, you’ll be able to access those feelings of well-being and pride faster and more often. You are in charge of your emotions and can use them to shape your life however you choose. Decide today that you will be a more confident, positive version of yourself, and you’ll have no other option than to succeed.
BY UNDERSTANDING NON-VERBAL CUES, YOU CAN CONFIDENTLY DETERMINE YOUR NEXT MOVE.
Life and business are a series of negotiations. Whether you’re negotiating a contract for a new job, creating or dissolving a business partnership, or negotiating with your spouse over who will make dinner that night, negotiation is an unavoidable–and often uncomfortable–part of life.In any negotiation, we all desire to give the illusion of control so we can gain the upper hand–but to do so, it helps to know what others are thinking and feeling. Are they walking into the negotiation feeling confident? Are they firm in their offer, or are they willing to budge? Are they happy with the offer that’s on the table? If only we knew the answers to these questions, we could more confidently and accurately determine our next move.
Luckily, there are many non-verbal cues that can help you determine what other people are thinking or how they’re feeling, even if they put on a strong poker face. In fact, our non-verbal actions speak much louder than our words. It would surprise most people to learn that 55% of communication is non-verbal, 38% of communication is voice inflection, and only 7% of communication comes from the words we say. Here’s some tip’s from body language expert Jan Hargrave, so we can understand what these non-verbal cues are and what they can tell us in a negotiation situation.
“If their facial expressions don’t match what they’re saying, then most likely the words that they’re saying are not genuine to them. There must be some congruence between the facial expressions and what they’re verbalizing. For example, if I say, “I love you,” but yet my face is angry and similar to that of someone who hates you, you would trust my face more than you would trust the words coming out of my mouth.”
“If someone is speaking with you, your shoulders should be square with them, and their body angle should face towards you–because we always point our bodies where our minds want to go. But if I’m speaking with you and my body is facing towards the door, that would show, ‘I want to hurry and finish this, because I need to be somewhere else.’ People lean forward when they’re interested, and they lean away if they’re not interested. For example, if you have something that you like, you’ll go towards it to touch it–but if it’s something you’re afraid of, you will lean backwards. It’s the same thing when you’re in a negotiation with someone.”
“When their foot points towards you, they’re usually engaged in the conversation that they’re having with you. If their foot is not pointed towards you, and is pointed towards the door, they want to exit quickly.”
CROSSED OR UNCROSSED
“When you look at their arms, notice if they’re crossed or uncrossed. It’s okay to cross your arms casually when you’re talking to someone, but the only acceptable arm crossing is when hands and fingers are showing. When their hands and fingers are showing, it indicates that the person is in contemplation. When their arms are crossed and their hands aren’t showing at all, it’s as though they have a shield in front of themselves, protecting them from receiving your information. When someone is double-crossed closed, with both their arms crossed and their legs crossed, they’re feeling defensive and closed off to the negotiation.”
HANDS CLASPED BEHIND HEAD
“When a person sits back, clasps his hands behind his head, and leans back, that’s a negative gesture. It’s a gesture of confidence, but it’s too strong of a gesture in a room of just two people. It’s equivalent to a person who has his feet up on the desk and thinking, ‘I am better than you are.’”
“The size of space you need around you while negotiating can show another how much power you feel you have. For example, if you saw three limousines driving down the freeway and one is larger than the other two, you’d naturally think the most important person is in the largest of the three. So if someone is taking up a lot of space in a meeting room, it portrays the image, ‘I need all of this space because I will be the one in control of the room.’ You can give the aura that you need more space by spreading your books out a little further than you need, or by resting one of your arms on the arm of the chair you’re sitting in, and on the flip-side, if the person you’re negotiating with is taking up a lot of physical space, then you know they want control of the room.”
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Have you ever been so afraid you couldn’t move? Have you ever felt this sense of fear or panic, even when you know it’s not rational? Extreme fear makes us freeze, but what happens when that fear never goes away? For people who are anxious, scared or fearful, everyday tasks can feel impossible to handle. Everyone experiences anxiety in their lives. The difference is in how we react to it. Some people, it may be speaking in public or pushing the speed limit, which brings about feelings of crippling fear. For others, that kind of anxiety is exhilarating. It’s the way we deal with the anxiety and fear that makes a world of difference.
WHAT CAUSES ANXIETY?
Broadly, anxiety is a person’s excessive, persistent fear or worry in non-threatening situations. Anxiety can come from specific triggers, for instance, needing to ride in an airplane or speak in public, or manifest in generalized fear and worry about small, every day triggers going on around them. The causes of anxiety aren’t always clear, and they can differ from person to person.
Remember, everyone experiences anxiety at different times and in different situations. But if it’s preventing you from achieving your goals and living the life you want, it’s time to make a change and find anxiety help.
How To Treat Anxiety?
Use your fear before it uses you.
One of the best ways to learn how to deal with anxiety is to understand how to use its fear for motivation. It’s not that successful people are never afraid;It’s that they are more afraid of not living a full, rich life than they are of whatever else might hold them back. Instead of being crippled by fear and anxiety, they use that fear pushing them further toward their goals. Here are 5 tips I used to thrive through times of anguish.
Take a moment and visualize yourself at an old age. You’re relaxing, reflecting on the life you lived. Now, imagine your life as if you did everything you wanted to do, but it is that always made you feel anxious or afraid; maybe it’s changing careers, getting married or taking a trip somewhere you’ve never been. How do you feel? What’s your life been like as a result? Now, continue with this mental image, but now examine how your life looks without achieving those things, because of what makes you feel anxious or afraid. This is the path where your fears dominate you. Do you look back and feel you missed out? Do you have any regrets? Wish you’d made different choices?
Compare the feelings from both possibilities and use that emotion to make your choice. After this exercise, you’ll feel the conviction in your decision.
2. Become Fearful
When your mind fills with fear, it prevents you from doing anything. Make the decision that there is much more fear in doing nothing than the fear itself. Be afraid of not living the life you know you deserve and worked hard for. Don’t let fear hold you back. Let fear be the prime motivator that pushes you to your full potential, achieving all the things in life that you really want. This may be a challenge at first, but once you push past these fears and be more fearful of not becoming a success in life, not making your loved one’s proud, but most importantly not letting yourself down. Once you realize that these fears are way worse than the imagined ones, you’ll be driven to take action.
Anxiety is a feeling that everyone has experienced and it is normal. Feelings or emotions is energy in motion, so use that to push yourself forwards, not backwards. Progress equals happiness not perfection. If everyone had to feel amazing to be productive, I don’t think any of us would be. Unlike affirmations, incantations is something said out loud, using your whole physiology. (Language, Focus, physiology) Give it emotion by putting meaning behind the words you so carefully choose. Discussed in our “Morning Ritual Article”
” NOW I AM THE VOICE
I WILL LEAD NOT FOLLOW
I AM CONFIDENT, LAZER FOCUSED, I’M A LEADER
ALL I NEED IS WITHIN ME NOW!
DEFY THE ODDS!
STEP UP! “
We may never know how to treat anxiety completely, but we can develop tools and skills to get past those moments of fear and anxiety. When you train your brain to accept that even though you may have felt some type of way, you can still push forward. That is a luxury most people don’t have.
That negative self talk in your head about anxiety is a limitation, a limitation preventing you from accomplishing your dreams. Are you going to let your mind control your life or are you motivated now to push yourself and relate the feelings of anxiety to action? Most likely you are anxious about something that hasn’t happened yet and most likely will never occur the way you think it will. If you’re focused on the past, depressed thoughts come in. I heard a saying once a long time ago, kinda stuck with me.
“If You have one leg in the future and one leg in the past, you are pissing on the present.”
If I were to tell you to describe how a depressed person would look like, their breathing, their posture, what they are focusing on. I am sure you would all agree on the responses. Now for those who get anxiety, what are you going through at those times? Are you sweating? Difficulty breathing? These all affect your physical being, It’s your state of mind. So how do you combat this you ask? Change your physiology, stand up straight, smile, or just get up and move. Start dancing. By changing your physical state it will change how you feel. Remember about focus and energy, shift your focus and watch your internal and external dialogue that you tell yourself. The language you use will affect your emotional state.
5. Tag It And Bag It
Remember, these emotions are never just going to go away completely. It’s how we deal with them is what needs to change. Stressful moments happen in life and I am not saying you can’t react or have these feelings, just don’t dwell in them.
I love to play golf, but sometimes I hit a bad shot and let it get into my head. It takes me two holes just to get back in the game. Tiger Woods, for instance, when he hits a bad shot, he allows himself 60-90 seconds to get emotional about what just happened, but It’s what he does after those 90 seconds that really makes a difference. He moves on. I started using this method first on the golf course, instead of one bad shot turning into two holes of bad shots, by the time I got to my ball “I tagged it and bagged it”. Never brought it back into my mind, just went back on focusing on my current objective.
The same goes with anxiety, self-pity, any emotion or feeling we get. We have to move forward. How many times has life happened and put you in a mood, and while in that mood, how many good decisions did you make? My guess is few. Our state of mind can affect the way we make decisions. So, feel it, embrace it, then tag it, bag it and never look back.
If you are someone who struggles with these feelings more frequently than others, don’t beat yourself up. We all handle anxiety at some point in our lives. This is not a reason to give up; you have the control, the drive, everything you need to be successful.
**The information and other content provided in this article, or in any linked materials, are not intended and should not be construed as medical advice, nor is the information a substitute for professional medical expertise or treatment.
Does it really matter what you do every morning? A ritual? Believe it or not a high percentage of people wake up already thinking about the stress that lies ahead. However, a positive incantation can be just the thing you need to get pumped and ready to take the day head on!
Those who have claimed to have an effective ritual say it really sets the tone of the day. Giving them a better outlook and approach. For those who have not adopted a morning ritual, many say it is a hit or miss. “They” like to say I woke up on the wrong side of the bed or Vice Versa. On those days of “waking up on the wrong side”, this mood is likely to carry on throughout the rest of your day, sometimes not able to snap out of it at all.
MAPPING OUT YOUR MORNING
The Huffington Post published an article on morning rituals that help you create a better day and ultimately a better life. The author places particular emphasis on the benefits of visualization and how Tony Robbins takes it to the next level by adding positive incantations. That’s right, not affirmations – incantations*.
Through Tony Robbins and his team is where I was first introduced and taught how to make and perform a proper incantation.I know, when I was first heard about this I had no clue what to think. I asked him, “So, I just look in the mirror and say I am beautiful over and over again?”, we laughed, but again I was confusing affirmations with Incantations. It is that and much more. Without jumping too much into our physiology or psychology. The bottom line is that we have the power to control and change how we feel. How we feel can change the outcomes and choices we partake in at home or in the office.
First, let me explain the difference between an affirmation and an incantation. An affirmation is a spoken word of encouragement, but for some people it just isn’t enough to be an effective technique. For those who really want to get in the “zone” for their day, just saying an affirmation will not cut it. Yes, reciting something that is uplifting may scratch the surface, but with an incantation, you are truly feeling the meaning of what you are saying by using your whole physiology. That is way more empowering. Not only are you speaking these words, you are using your body and your voice to bring them to life.
“Growth Happens When You Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone”
Incantations really come in handy not only as part of a morning ritual. We all have times when we are just not in the mood, but have a commitment or sales call where we must be in the “zone”. Need help writing an incantation? Inquire within and we will be happy to assist.
10 minutes daily should be the bare minimum. Make a commitment to yourself, leave a comment below to solidify the deal. Embarrassed that others may hear you? Judge you? Successful people do what others won’t do now, so they can do whatever they want later. Throw some music on while you’re getting ready, take a walk or in your car on your way to work. My kids think it’s fun, so there is no excuses.
The first two weeks, you will notice yourself repeating it over and over in your head, before bed . After 4 weeks, other people will notice something different, a change. A confidence or just a feeling when you walk into a room. An “I’ll have whatever he/she is having” feeling. This will be the same for you, the words you say will have meaning as you start believing.
The key to incantations is how you are changing your whole physiology, your state of mind, and your focus. Bringing a positive outlook to everyday. There is nothing wrong with affirmations, they sound positive and are, they just lack power when not said out loud, with meaning and emotions behind them. An effective incantation truly hits the mind, body and spirit to alter one’s way of thinking, feeling and believing.
Maybe at first you don’t 100% believe what you are saying. Another voice in your head is saying “but I am not confident”. Keep pushing through these barriers we call limiting beliefs and not only will this change your morning, it could change your whole outlook on life and yourself. Remember, the mind has no eyes. It believes what you say to it, internally, externally and your senses. Studies on the brain have been done with piano players and Olympic athletes in which visualizing, the act of the performance had the same effect on the brain as preforming the task.
For those of you who like to work out, well guys at least, want to go heavier and heavier, adding up how much weight they just benched, bragging to their friends, but the weight doesn’t matter if your form is terrible. Someone who uses less weight with proper form would have more effective results. Why, because your brain cannot read the numbers on the weights.
The resources and tools for success are there for those who are resourceful enough to not just find them but adopt them into your life. Adding Incantations to your morning ritual will serve as a powerful reminder. Every day getting that confidence boost, you need to start each day as the man or woman you choose to be. It is a commitment to living your life with an energy so positive other people feel it. Tapping into the inner confidence buried inside yourself.
MORNING RITUALS: DAILY ROUTINE
Incantations allows you to take the wheel of your mind by choosing how you want to feel when you want to feel it. Change the quality of your life no matter what circumstances you may be in. Be strong, don’t let external forces control the way you feel. Don’t allow a limiting belief to stop you from living your dream life. Mental and emotional control can be a factor of how you look at your life and make key decisions.
This influences the stories we tell ourselves about who we are, what we’re capable of or what’s achievable or not. The states we go into most often will determine whether we find the strategies necessary to succeed and whether we come up with a story that will empower us. Knowing you have this massive power to change your life, what are you going to do with it?
MAKING ROOM FOR CHANGE
It is vital to manage your time efficiently. A morning ritual means you need to allow yourself the uninterrupted time to visualize and reflect. If you live in a house like mine, morning times can be hectic, rushing to get kids ready for school or camp while getting yourself ready for work. Rushing an incantation will just diminish its power. Maybe you have to get up a little earlier to have a comfortable, stress free environment to focus. There is a reason every successful person I have spoken to has a morning ritual. I guess the question to ask your-self is it worth it?
If anyone told you changing your life is a walk in the park, it’s because they haven’t had to change theirs. From finding time to add in a morning ritual or making other necessary positive changes in your life, it can be challenging. This is where a Life Coach could be beneficial. Having the aid of a life coach will not only efficiently map out your morning ritual but also have the insight of an experienced professional. I am a life coach, and I continue to work with a life coach still.
There is always room to grow, new strategies and techniques to learn, but the higher quality service I can provide for my clients. To complete rearrange your entire morning, giving yourself enough time and applying new techniques to the start of your day can be a daunting task. Help and accountability can be your keys to establishing healthy habits to bring about positive changes to your day and your life.
One of the greatest scientific discoveries has been that you can alter your emotional mood by a radical shift in your physiology, and we can achieve that through incantations. If a morning ritual has the power to transform your whole existence, isn’t it worth giving a shot? We can meet our true potential with positive incantations, which we can use to recognize the confident and driven person living within ourselves.
Power of state: the role of a positive state of mind
When was the last time you smiled, not because you felt like it, but just for the sake of smiling? You’d probably do it more often if you knew that smiling was making you happier. That’s right! If you made all the facial expressions you make when you’re excited, elated and thrilled, even when you don’t actually feel those emotions, the truth is that you’d see an immediate improvement in your mood. Why does this matter? Because your mood is everything, especially when it comes to accomplishing your goals.
In fact, take a moment to smile right now. Why does something as simple as a grin have so much power to dictate what motivates you? How do you feel, physically and emotionally, when you allow yourself to smile?
Your mind interprets the events we experience within the framework you set for yourself, meaning that whether an experience is positive or negative is largely determined by our mood and state of mind. Think about it: the emotion and meaning our minds attach to events ultimately counts more than the experiences themselves, since they condition our willingness to experience and pursue them.
Examining your mood
A positive state of mind can be what motivates you in life, and a negative state of mind can be what holds you back.
It affects your mood by two different things: your physiology and your energy. What does it mean to say that your physiology can determine your mood? Consider the signs and vibes that a motivated person radiates. They smile, laugh, and they more often than not shine with unbridled optimism. They often have better posture and more approachable body language than someone who’s not as motivated. It’s true that certain goals and experiences cause these reactions, but this is only half the truth. Being happy, open to change and optimistic also work the other way, making you predisposed to positively evaluating the task at hand, your life and what the future brings if you accomplish your objectives. This can help you get motivated and discover what drives you.
Evaluating Your Energy Levels
Energy levels can affect the mood, too. It’s important to eat right, exercise, and take great care of yourself. Think about it: How can we expect our minds and bodies to tackle our responsibilities and ambitions when we starve them of nutrients and TLC? When you make the commitment to maintain your energy levels through natural means, like healthy eating and exercise, you’ll find that your state of mind will improve.
Good energy levels, got it–but how do you maintain them? Treating your body and mind right via exercise and diet plays a big part in finding out how to stay motivated. Another factor is breathing correctly. You’d be surprised how much of your energy comes down to breathing and to giving yourself enough time to reflect through morning meditation. If you really are serious about restoring that passion, that motivation, to succeed — not just professionally, but within all aspects of your life.
The three levels of beliefs
“Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their lives.” – Tony Robbins
Our beliefs have varying levels of emotional intensity and they possess the power to change our actions. We can pinpoint at least three categories of beliefs based on their ability to influence action in you. Understanding each of the three categories will empower you to create healthy and positive changes in your life by beginning to adjust your beliefs.
1. Opinions are something we feel relatively certain about, but the certainty is only temporary and those can change easily. For example, you might think the head of your company’s accounting department is not qualified for his position, but your opinion may change quickly when you see how effectively he manages his staff.
2. Beliefs are formed when you develop a much larger base of reference, one that’s often associated with strong emotions and based on experience. Beliefs can create such a level of certainty that they close people off to new ideas. For example, some people believe that money equals success. Other people may have a different — yet equally passionate — beliefs abut what success truly means.
3. A conviction, however, eclipses a belief, primarily because of the emotional intensity a person links to the idea. A person holding a conviction feels so certain that he or she will be resistant to new input, often to the point of obsession. One of the best things you can do to create mastery in any area of your life is to raise a belief to the level of conviction. Convictions are at the core of what motivates you in life.
Conviction, because of the passion it inspires in us, has the power to drive you to action and push you through all kinds of obstacles. For example, the conviction to never let yourself become out of shape will compel you to make consistently healthy lifestyle choices, empowering you to get more enjoyment out of your life in the long run. The conviction that you are an intelligent and resourceful person can help steer you through incredibly tough times.
So how can you reinforce a belief and turn it into a conviction that will help you make a positive, lasting change in your life? (Learn how to master these skills at our Leadership Academy.
Identify the basic belief that you want to elevate. Reinforce your belief by adding powerful references. To create a conviction for a healthy lifestyle, you might research the medical consequences of gaining weight. Then talk to people who have lost weight and kept it off. The more references you develop, the stronger your conviction.
Then find a triggering event — or make one of your own. You need to raise the emotional intensity of the belief. If you were trying to give up smoking, you might visit the intensive care wing of a hospital to see the first-hand effects of emphysema.
Finally, take action. Each action you take strengthens your commitment and raises the level of your emotional intensity and conviction. What change will you create today by raising one of your beliefs to a conviction? Pick one and create an action plan, using the four steps above to influence what motivates you. Remember to put dates on your plan to keep yourself moving forward and track your progress.
Quick tips to get motivated now
Sometimes you’re working toward a long-term goal, but need a burst of motivation at that moment. As you consider what motivates you right now, get and stay empowered for success with these quick motivation tips:
Turn shoulds into musts. If you won’t make your goal a priority, it won’t get done. Set specific goals. If you want to write a book, set a concrete outcome, such as, “I want to sell 5 policies this week”. Don’t lose steam tracking undefined goals. By setting metrics, you can better gauge your progress and get the positive feedback you need to feel motivated to continue. When you reach your goals, celebrate!
Happiness and optimism breed productivity, so the more you achieve, the better you feel, and the more you can do moving forward. Chunk your tasks into manageable, actionable goals. This way, you resist feeling overwhelmed but attach emotional significance to your goals. Make a commitment. When you achieve a goal that is part of your action plan, reward yourself with something meaningful — and don’t skip it. Still not feeling motivated?
Get inspired as you consider what motivates you in life. Every day, ordinary people do extraordinary things. Read success stories, books, blogs and inspirational quotesto keep your motivational fire burning bright. Tell yourself that if people you admire can accomplish their goals, so can you.
Get a Coach. Sometimes it’s tough to get a neutral perspective on your goals, your progress, and your strengths and weaknesses. A Life Coach can give you the sound feedback and motivation you may need now and can also serve as an objective sounding board.
The reason so many people struggle with reaching their goals is the same reason they struggle with unhappiness and feeling unfulfilled. Make the link between your emotions and your physiology and achieve a moment of authentic decision and clarity that can help you stay happier and healthier for life.