First things first. If you have signed up for your first therapy session or are planning to sign up for one, great job! Life can be exhausting sometimes. It is a great idea to seek professional help to manage your emotions, heal from trauma, and take control of your life. Don’t jump into therapy without understanding its impact and role. I have witnessed so many people get into therapy and feeling lost. Don’t do that to yourself.
You are likely to feel overwhelmed before your first session. It is okay. Let me help you figure things out.
I remember my first therapy session a couple of years ago. I didn’t know what to tell and how much to tell. I was reluctant to talk. Recalling your childhood or talking about family can be triggering. Your therapist would best know where to start from. But therapy doesn’t always feel like healing, especially on the first day. You might feel lost half way into the session. It’s okay. It doesn’t have to make sense from the start. Trust the process and let your therapist lead. Give it at least three to four sessions before you decide anything. Some conversations will be challenging, some difficult, and some disturbing. But it will eventually fall into place.
Talking about your traumas isn’t easy. But trying to hide your emotions will do you no good. If you aren’t ready to talk about something, let your therapist not. Therapy is all about honesty and transparency. It is a no-judgement space and it must feel like that to you. Communicating with your therapist with honestly is important for healing. Try not to keep information or details when narrating an event. Don’t focus on building a good perception in your therapist’s mind. Tell your therapist if you do not want to talk about something or feel judged. Let your therapist know how you feel during the process.
You know that but you still want it to work out as soon as possible, don’t you? We all want to feel better soon, for healing to start right away. But therapy takes time. Sometimes you might wonder if it doing you any good. You have been so hard on yourself for so long. That trauma has been engraved in your mind for years. Two sessions will not erase that from your life. Allow yourself to feel the change but do not hurry. Healing cannot be forced. Therapy is a lot of learning and unlearning – and the journey is often a long one. But worth it, I guarantee you that.
You want a quick out and want your therapist to answer things for you, but that won’t happen. Your therapist will not tell you what to do or what is better for you. The therapist will help you make the right choice for yourself. You shouldn’t rely on anyone but yourself to make informed choices in life, and your therapist will help you achieve that. It is okay to feel overwhelmed. It is part of the healing process.